Investigations by SaharaReporters reveal that poverty-plagued Taraba State has so far spent more than $1.2 million (close to N200 million) in ten months on the medical treatment of brain-injured Governor Danbaba Suntai. The state has also spent millions of naira more in security votes to the injured governor, estacode payments to him as well as members of Mr. Suntai’s inner circle, and transportation. The total cost to the state is close to half a billion naira, our investigative team discovered.
Mr. Suntai was injured in October, 2012 when a small plane he was piloting crashed near Yola Airport in Adamawa State. Mr. Suntai was attempting to land at the time of the accident.
Click source for more details: Sahara Reporters
Wednesday, 4 December 2013
ASUU Strike: FG Shifts Ultimatum to December 9
The Federal Government has extended the deadline for striking university lecturers to resume work to December 9.
Prof. Julius Okojie, Executive Secretary of the National Universities Commission (NUC), announced the new date while addressing journalists in Abuja on Tuesday.
Okojie said, "Government decided to shift the deadline after it received notification of Prof. Festus Iyayi's funeral rites slated for between December 5 and 7.
Iyayi, former ASUU president , died on Nov 12, 2013 in auto crash in Lokoja on his way to attend the association’s meeting in Kano.
"We just received information that the burial rites of Festus Iyayi begins on the December 5 and would last till December 7. Based on this information, government decided to shift the resumption deadline to December 9, to enable lecturers to participate in the burial.
The executive secretary said the directive had been communicated to the various universities Governing Councils and Vice Chancellors for onward transmission to the academic staff.
Prof. Julius Okojie, Executive Secretary of the National Universities Commission (NUC), announced the new date while addressing journalists in Abuja on Tuesday.
Okojie said, "Government decided to shift the deadline after it received notification of Prof. Festus Iyayi's funeral rites slated for between December 5 and 7.
Iyayi, former ASUU president , died on Nov 12, 2013 in auto crash in Lokoja on his way to attend the association’s meeting in Kano.
"We just received information that the burial rites of Festus Iyayi begins on the December 5 and would last till December 7. Based on this information, government decided to shift the resumption deadline to December 9, to enable lecturers to participate in the burial.
The executive secretary said the directive had been communicated to the various universities Governing Councils and Vice Chancellors for onward transmission to the academic staff.
Ronaldo to return to action
Cristiano Ronaldo has recovered from a muscle strain and is ready to return to action, the Real Madrid and Portugal forward said on Monday.
Ronaldo damaged a hamstring in Real's La Liga match at Almeria on Nov. 23 and missed last week's Champions League win over Galatasaray and Saturday's La Liga success against Real Valladolid.
"I no longer have an injury," Ronaldo said at an awards ceremony in Madrid.
"I have been fine for a couple of days," added the 28-year-old, who has been on scintillating form this season.
"We preferred not to push things against Valladolid but I will be there for the next game for sure."
Ronaldo netted 14 goals in his last seven appearances for club and country before his injury and is one of the favourites to scoop the FIFA Ballon d'Or when the footballer of the year award is announced next month.
The former Manchester United man was the last player to win in 2008 before Barcelona's Argentine forward Lionel Messi took the next four.
"I am on good form," Ronaldo said. "It's possible that it is the best start to the season of my career but the past few years have also been very good."
Four robbery suspects shot dead in Benin
Four armed robbery suspects were on Tuesday morning shot dead in two separate encounters with the police in Benin.
The Commissioner of Police (CP) in Edo, Foluso Adebanjo, confirmed that 20 suspected armed robbers engaged the police in a shoot-out in the first encounter on the Benin/Lagos Bypass.
He said one of the robbers was killed in the process while a policeman sustained gunshot wound on his leg.
The CP said the other armed robbers escaped into the bush, some of them believed to be with bullet wounds.
"In the second encounter that occurred on the Benin/Auchi road, three members of a robbery gang, who had laid siege on the road, were gunned down by policemen.
Adebanjo also announced the arrest of members of a robbery gang who recently killed four policemen on the Benin Bypass.
The four policemen, deployed from Osun for election duty in Anambra, were said to have stopped at a road block mounted by the robbers.
"The policemen were attacked by the armed robbers."
One of the suspects, Muhammadu Umaru, 29, told newsmen that he participated in three robberies in Enugu State.
He said his shares were N5 000; N6 000 and N30 000.
The suspect, however, denied being part of the gang that killed the four policemen.
He said he joined a new robbery gang in Aduwawa area of Benin City.
"I don't know who killed police (men). We don't have real guns but carved guns which we use to block road", he said.
In all, 43 suspects were paraded in connection with robbery; unlawful possession of fire arms and cannabis, cultism, conspiracy and fraud, car snatching, murder and rape.
Among the suspects was one Augustine Obodeke, said to have impregnated his daughter twice and procured abortion for her.
Four other suspects were said to have conspired to defraud a man of N29.8 with an ATM card.
- NAN
The Commissioner of Police (CP) in Edo, Foluso Adebanjo, confirmed that 20 suspected armed robbers engaged the police in a shoot-out in the first encounter on the Benin/Lagos Bypass.
He said one of the robbers was killed in the process while a policeman sustained gunshot wound on his leg.
The CP said the other armed robbers escaped into the bush, some of them believed to be with bullet wounds.
"In the second encounter that occurred on the Benin/Auchi road, three members of a robbery gang, who had laid siege on the road, were gunned down by policemen.
Adebanjo also announced the arrest of members of a robbery gang who recently killed four policemen on the Benin Bypass.
The four policemen, deployed from Osun for election duty in Anambra, were said to have stopped at a road block mounted by the robbers.
"The policemen were attacked by the armed robbers."
One of the suspects, Muhammadu Umaru, 29, told newsmen that he participated in three robberies in Enugu State.
He said his shares were N5 000; N6 000 and N30 000.
The suspect, however, denied being part of the gang that killed the four policemen.
He said he joined a new robbery gang in Aduwawa area of Benin City.
"I don't know who killed police (men). We don't have real guns but carved guns which we use to block road", he said.
In all, 43 suspects were paraded in connection with robbery; unlawful possession of fire arms and cannabis, cultism, conspiracy and fraud, car snatching, murder and rape.
Among the suspects was one Augustine Obodeke, said to have impregnated his daughter twice and procured abortion for her.
Four other suspects were said to have conspired to defraud a man of N29.8 with an ATM card.
- NAN
Most Sought After Female act DAMSEL talks about Her new Video
We recently chatted with the Acumba dance singer signed to CV records recently, excerpts;
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| Damsel |
Q: Can we meet you?
A: I am Ejoh Ugochi Vivian from Imo state, Owerri, Precisely Ngor-Okpala LCDA, born and bred in Lagos, Nigeria with all the levels of education acquired
Q: Challenges Growing?
A: Smiles, it was fun growing in the hoods with other kids with huge dreams to play and interact with. Life in the ghetto gives you all round class of discovering yourself
Q: What inspired you to be an artiste?
A: Entertainment most especially the musical genre was an in born activity. From the beginning it was a noisy venture, a way of passing out time in class way back in secondary school. I used to sing loud during prep hours, drum on my table instead of joining other kids to play the foot game. With time, i joined the school choir where i learnt a little about music note and from there my huge interest in music developed.
Q: You have a couple of works out, akumba dance and naija gyrate, how has the acceptance been?
A: The reception has not been bad, as a matter of fact, its been very encouraging, larger than we expected.
Q: Challenges in the Industry?
A: Its the usual preference of male performers to the females, but gradually that's fading and the reception is upgrading, i see our culture as a factor contributing to the issues the female gender has, but today, inter-cultural influences from other countries in the world has given us much needed light for equity between the female and male performing artistes.
Q: Where do you see yourself in a couple of years?
A: Some two years ago, i was crawling, now its a platform of recognition of my presence in the industry and a few years from now, the brand DAMSEL will become one to reckon with.
Pls Watch and download acumba dance video here: http://www.jaguda.com/2013/07/27/new-video-damsel-acumba-dance/
Pls Watch and download acumba dance video here: http://www.jaguda.com/2013/07/27/new-video-damsel-acumba-dance/
Tuesday, 3 December 2013
Paul Walker: Porsche warned that the car was hyper sensitive to road conditions
The sports car Paul Walker died in was so gnarly to drive ... Porsche WARNED its dealers, in writing, about letting just anyone drive the vehicle ... because it's hyper sensitive to road conditions.
A copy of a memo sent from Porsche HQ to multiple dealers in the Midwest back in 2004 ... right before the $500K Carrera GT went on sale -- and it explains how ridiculously powerful the car is, but also that ... "this vehicle cannot drive over a Foster Beer can that is lying on its side."
In the doc, a Porsche exec says, "You need to be aware of what type of road surface you are on (dips; pot holes, seam heights, etc.)"
It's worth noting ... the road where Paul and Roger Rodas crashed is covered with reflective dots -- y'know, the ones you've probably driven over harmlessly thousands of times.
Police are still investigating the exact cause of the accident, and, so far, have only said speed was a factor.
he exec's memo explains the GT is damn near to being a real racecar, but adds ... "This car has all the disadvantages of a racecar."
While Rodas was known to be an experienced driver -- the Porsche document makes it clear experience isn't always enough ... if the road surface isn't ideal.
TMZ
Paul Walkers Death: People tried to help
Contrary to reports, there were lots of helpers after Paul Walkers car crash.
In those first moments of panic, so many people tried to help.
Among the first to arrive was a childhood friend of Paul's named Nute, who emptied his fire extinguisher on the blaze and at one point tried to reach in to release Walker's seat belt, TMZ reported Sunday night (a man can be seen at the side of the car in the screenshot, left, of a bystander video obtained by TMZ). So overwrought was Nute that when firefighters finally arrived, the man punched one as they tried to pull him away.
Antonio Holmes, who identified himself as Walker's friend, told a TMZ cameraman that at least seven fire-extinguishers were emptied before firefighters arrived. Multiple people were detained because they refused to stop helping; all were eventually released.
One of those who firefighters had to pull away from the burning wreckage was Rodas' young son, Torp told the LA Times. He also said Walker's daughter Meadow was there.
"They kept his daughter off to the side, so she wouldn't know what was going on until they really know what had happened," he told E! news, adding that the 15-year-old "was in pieces."
Kelechi Iheanacho NOT going To Brazil- Keshi
Super Eagles coach Stephen Keshi has dashed the hope of Golden Eaglets hero Kelechi Iheanacho playing at the 2014 FIFA World Cup in Brazil.
Iheanacho emerged the Most Valuable Player at the concluded FIFA U17 World Cup in the United Arab Emirates in November, scoring six goals.
That feat has left millions of football loving Nigerians to call for his inclusion in the Super Eagles team to the World Cup, but that is not in the plans of Keshi right now.
“Iheanacho is a fantastic player that will have to grow through the ranks before playing for the Super Eagles”, Keshi said on Brila FM.
“He had a good experience at the U17 World Cup, but he needs to play regularly to help his career”.
“He will play for the Super Eagles, but he has to come through the ranks (U20 and U23) and as well play competitive football for a club side. We don’t have to rush him, he has so much to achieve in his career”.
Sunday, 1 December 2013
Ghanaian Footballer Odartey Lamptey discovers three kids with wife are not his biological children
Former Ghana international football star, Nii Odartey Lamptey has spent his entire marriage life without knowing all three kids he has been fathering are not his real children.
The 38-year-old after sensing marriage infidelity on the part of his wife proceeded to conduct a DNA test only to realize the kids are not his biological children.
The woman claims the former Anderlecht and Aston Villa player was the one who suggested an artificial insemination after realizing he was infertile.
According to reports, Nii Odartey Lamptey has suspected his wife of infidelity for several years but decided to stay in the marriage out of love and the chain of businesses they own together.
Lamptey who is the owner of Golden Lions Soccer Academy and Glow Lamp International School is now heading to court for a divorce after over 20 years of marriage.
According to reports, Nii Odartey Lamptey has suspected his wife of infidelity for several years but decided to stay in the marriage out of love and the chain of businesses they own together.
Lamptey who is the owner of Golden Lions Soccer Academy and Glow Lamp International School is now heading to court for a divorce after over 20 years of marriage.
RIP PAUL WALKER : Pictures of the Accident and Identity of the other victim confirmed
The California-born actor was in the passenger seat of a red Porsche Carrera GT sports car while the driver was said to be professional race car driver Roger Rodas, they were said to be on their way to attending a charity event when the vehicle crashed into a lamp post and a tree, according to local media reports.
Los Angeles police said officers responded to reports of a collision in the Valencia suburb north of the city, and arrived to find the car engulfed in flames. They said two people were found in the car and pronounced dead at the scene.
pictures from the scene below;
Fast & Furious actor Paul Walker dies in horrific Los Angeles car crash
The California-born actor was in the passenger seat of a red Porsche Carrera GT sports car while attending a charity event when the vehicle crashed into a lamp post and a tree, according to local media reports.
Los Angeles police said officers responded to reports of a collision in the Valencia suburb north of the city, and arrived to find the car engulfed in flames. They said two people were found in the car and pronounced dead at the scene.
Representatives for Walker confirmed that he had died, aged 40, late on Saturday afternoon.
A statement on the actor’s Facebook page read: “It is with a truly heavy heart that we must confirm that Paul Walker passed away today in a tragic car accident while attending a charity event for his organisation Reach Out Worldwide.
“He was a passenger in a friend's car, in which both lost their lives. We... are stunned and saddened beyond belief by this news.
Transfer Gossips from the premier league
Sam Allardyce says he tried to sign Romelu Lukaku, Loic Remy, Demba Ba and Marko Arnautovic for West Ham during the summer.
Arsenal are lining up a move for West Brom midfielder Youssouf Mulumbu.
Tottenham want Fiorontina striker Giuseppe Rossi.
Aston Villa are checking out PSV Eindhoven striker Jurgen Locadio in case they receive a massive January offer for current star Christian Benteke.
Chelsea's Ashley Cole is weighing up a move to the US with MLS sides New York Red Bulls and LA Galaxy keen.
Tottenham boss Andre Villas-Boas has a month to save his job.
New Sunderland boss Gus Poyet, a former Spurs player, is another in the frame.
Stoke join Everton, West Ham and Fulham in the race to sign Clint Dempsey on loan during the MLS off-season.
Real Madrid will make Sergio Aguero their top target next summer, with president Florentino Perez planning a £48million raid.
Southampton are in talks to sign Werder Bremen and Germany midfielder Aaron Hunt.
Liverpool transfer target Javier Pastore is also wanted by Roma and Lyon.Micah Richards has admitted he might have to accept the heartbreak of leaving Manchester City to save his career.
Sunderland are set to sell midfielders Lee Cattermole and Craig Gardner to fund signings by new boss Gus Poyet.
Sunderland flop Ji Dong Won is wanted by German sides Hamburg, Stuttgart, Freiburg and Borussia Monchengladbach.
Newcastle have lined up Olympiakos centre-back Kostas Manolas as a potential replacement for unsettled skipper Fabricio Coloccini.
Arsenal and Tottenham are going head-to-head for Basel centre-half Fabian Schar.
West Ham want Stoke striker Kenwyne Jones.
Middlesbrough, Burnley and Wigan want Chelsea striker Patrick Bamford on loan in January once his spell at MK Dons ends.
Chelsea are ready to break the British transfer record with a £30million swoop for Saints defender Luke Shaw
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore have finally finalized their divorce.
The actor and actress 35 years 51 years officially ended their marriage and both are legally single, confirms E! News.
Kutcher and Moore have almost a year to make their divorce official. The last papers were signed by Kutcher November 14 and November 6 Moore before being submitted to a court in Los Angeles recently.According to the legal document, the parties entered into a written agreement regarding their property. Neither party will receive alimony.
Ashton Kutcher and Demi Moore will enjoy holiday season without having to stress about their divorce.
Kutcher and Moore were married Sept. 24, 2005. They announced their separation in late 2011, and Kutcher filed for divorce in December 2012 advancing irreconcilable differences.
Kutcher and Mila Kunis , his co-star of That '70s Show , have been dating since April 2012.Kunis recently sparked engagement rumors when she was released in Los Angeles in September a ring on the ring finger.
As for Moore, she began attending the restaurateur Harry Morton (who is 20 years younger than her) in early 2013. They dated six months before Moore attends Harry's father, tycoon restoration Peter Morton .
Ramsey Keeps Suprising Me - Arsene Wenger
"He was phenomenal," said Arsenal boss Wenger. "He keeps surprising me. He has matured as a player and as a person.
"He can still develop. When you see the improvement in him in the last two years then why should he stop now?"
Ramsey joined Arsenal from Cardiff as a 17-year-old in 2008 and played against his former club in a goalless FA Cup draw at Ninian Park a year later.
He spent a month back with the Bluebirds on loan in January 2011 as he recovered from a broken leg suffered in February 2010.
But this was the first time he had returned in a league game and the Wales international received a warm reception before kick-off.
After opening the scoring with a first-half header, Ramsey was applauded by sections of the home crowd - and some Cardiff fans sung his name following a second strike towards the end.
The 22-year-old did not celebrate but responded by tapping both hands against his head - a Cardiff celebration known by supporters as the Ayatollah.
"It's a special pressure when you come back to your home town," said Wenger. "He couldn't deal with that a few years ago.
Steven Gerrard could become a centre-back - Brendan Rodgers
Gerrard, 33, has been an influential midfielder at Anfield for more than a decade but Rodgers says the player could adapt to prolong his career.
"I look at Steven and I think he can play as a number two centre-half later in his career," the Reds boss said.
You play against teams where they've got one up [front] and I think he can play as a right-sided centre-half."
Gerrard signed a new two-year contract in the summer that will see him stay at Liverpool beyond his 35th birthday.
The Liverpool and England captain, who made his club debut in 1998, has spent his whole career at Anfield and has won the Champions League, a Uefa Cup, two FA Cups and three League Cups so far.
And on the day that Manchester United midfielder Ryan Giggs turned 40, Rodgers outlined his plans for how Gerrard could extend his own playing time in the game by changing positions in the future.
"[He could] build the game from behind," said Rodgers. "How he passes the ball is as good as anyone in the world, short and long.
"So it's a possibility that he could go on, but it will all be determined by fitness.
"He is 34 at the end of this season, and I look at his fitness and I look at how he is playing and he is as fit as he has ever been. He is looking after himself.
"That player he was 10 years ago, dynamic and making those long bursting runs, of course that goes out of your game.
"Like you see with Ryan Giggs, you adapt and change."
5 tips to spice up your sex life
Amongst other things, a healthy sex life is about understanding your body and its needs, knowing which forms of contraception are right for you and being able to effectively protect and pleasure yourself and your partner. Here's how to spice up your sex life and achieve ultimate satisfaction.
1. In the mood
It is important to be able to read your partner so you are able to tell when your partner is ready for some good loving. This is where body language comes in, as it’s one of the best indicators of a person’s mood. For example, when a woman seems fidgety and keeps stroking her neck or simply touching herself without being aware; that could be an indicator that she’s “in the mood”, while for men it could be inadvertently displaying their crotch. Always remember that these are simply indicators and it's not always guaranteed, so always approach the other person with respect, love and understanding.
2. Creating the right atmosphere
Being in the mood has a lot to do with the ambience, which is often just as important as the act itself. The key to creating the right atmosphere is to think about the five senses; touch, sight, smell, taste and hearing. Try to create an atmosphere that appeals to all of them and excite your partner on different levels.
3. Foreplay
The build-up is a very important part, so pay attention to your partner and if necessary take things slow so your partner may catch up. Make the most of those erogenous zones – they are there for a reason. Fool around with your partner and you will soon figure out what works best for you both. A sensual massage is a good place to start and to make it that much better, maybe try some massage lube. Durex Play™ Lubes offer a variety of choices, including the Play™ Aloe Vera which offers a silky smooth sensual treat that is gentle on the skin and suitable for any time or place.
4. Masturbation
We all do it! Okay, maybe not, but an important thing to remember about masturbation is that it needn’t be a solo sport nor a shameful one! Include it in your ‘fun sex time’ with your partner to be enjoyed by the both of you. Don’t be shy to show your partner your favourite techniques and encourage them to share theirs with you. The more you share and communicate with each other, the better the experience will be.
5. Condoms
Condoms have become more advanced and can now add to your sexual pleasure and even help to spice things up. Both sexes are definitely spoilt for choice when it comes to the variety of condoms available in the Durex range, many of which are made to add to your pleasure while protecting you. For those who are new to condom use, the Durex Easy On range, is shaped in a manner to make it easy to roll on and wear, while Durex Featherlite is ultra-fine for enhanced sensitivity and Durex Pleasuremax offers uniquely positioned ribs and raised dots for extra pleasure in all the right places.
MY BREAST IMPLANTS HANDICAPPED ME - Heidi Montag
The former reality TV star had her boobs reduced from an F cup to a C cup four weeks ago, after her larger implants caused her severe back and neck pain, numbness in her arms and prevented her from doing everyday tasks.
She is quoted by the MailOnline as saying: "Over the past few years my implants have handicapped me, I have not been able to do a lot of things.
"Over the past nine months I have not been able to do laundry, or look after my dogs or clean my house and I have had to stop working out because my injuries are so severe I cannot even do simple things like rowing or running.
"I have been limited in my everyday life and the last few months especially have been so uncomfortable and in pain that it has really been taking a toll on my life and my mood."
Heidi underwent 10 surgical procedures in a single day in 2010, when she was just 23 - including breast implants and a nose job - but now says she wishes she had never gone under the knife.
'You can never really take it back'
She said: "I definitely regret the surgeries that I have had over the years, I think I was so young and in such an unstable situation in my life with so much going on and so much pressure.
"I listened to what other people said and let myself become really insecure and I had a doctor that made it sound really easy and a quick fix and it ended up being a hard road and I inflicted a lot of pain, mentally and physically, on myself.
"If I had to go back and do it again I definitely wouldn't and I would not recommend that.
"Once you get surgery you can never be the same size you were, you can never really take it back so it is something you need to think about seriously.
"I wish that before I got my implants I had gone to a spine specialist and seen other doctors and consulted with them and got opinions of what size breasts I should have had and what my body could support."
Now happier with her body, Heidi is currently holidaying with her husband Spencer Pratt in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, to mark five years of their marriage.
She is quoted by the MailOnline as saying: "Over the past few years my implants have handicapped me, I have not been able to do a lot of things.
"Over the past nine months I have not been able to do laundry, or look after my dogs or clean my house and I have had to stop working out because my injuries are so severe I cannot even do simple things like rowing or running.
"I have been limited in my everyday life and the last few months especially have been so uncomfortable and in pain that it has really been taking a toll on my life and my mood."
Heidi underwent 10 surgical procedures in a single day in 2010, when she was just 23 - including breast implants and a nose job - but now says she wishes she had never gone under the knife.
'You can never really take it back'
She said: "I definitely regret the surgeries that I have had over the years, I think I was so young and in such an unstable situation in my life with so much going on and so much pressure.
"I listened to what other people said and let myself become really insecure and I had a doctor that made it sound really easy and a quick fix and it ended up being a hard road and I inflicted a lot of pain, mentally and physically, on myself.
"If I had to go back and do it again I definitely wouldn't and I would not recommend that.
"Once you get surgery you can never be the same size you were, you can never really take it back so it is something you need to think about seriously.
"I wish that before I got my implants I had gone to a spine specialist and seen other doctors and consulted with them and got opinions of what size breasts I should have had and what my body could support."
Now happier with her body, Heidi is currently holidaying with her husband Spencer Pratt in Cabo San Lucas, Mexico, to mark five years of their marriage.
- BangShowBiz
10 signs of an abusive relationship
Constant putdowns. If your partner ridicules you in front of other people, implying that you are stupid, uninformed and that your opinion on things is irrelevant, the behaviour is abusive.
Who was that who looked at you? Extreme jealousy and possessiveness is often a sign of an abusive relationship. If you feel as if you are constantly being watched and constantly questioned about everyone you spoke to, all your movements, chances are your relationship is abusive.
Demure and downtrodden. If you find yourself growing quieter and rather saying nothing at all than saying something that could unleash a torrent of abuse, you are in a danger zone. The same goes for starting to do things purely in order to avoid another verbal or physical attack. The sad thing, though, is that it is not your behaviour causing the abuse, so changing your behaviour won't put a stop to it.
All on my own. If you find that your partner is constantly criticising your family and friends, does not make them feel welcome in the home, and makes it more and more difficult for you to see them, the isolation process, which is so typical of the abusive relationship, has begun.
Last minute cancellations. You find that it happens more and more often that your partner provokes a scene or does something to effectively prevent you from attending social occasions to which you, or the two of you, have been invited.
Not a cent to be spent. Financial control is another form of abuse. Obviously unbridled spending on unnecessary luxuries cannot be justified. But if one of the partners is forced to hand over their entire salary, or ask for every little thing that is needed, or is not given any spending money, or is made to account for every single cent that is spent, it could be seen as abusive.
Temper tantrums. No one is always in a good mood, but there is a difference between feeling rather miffed and losing control, shouting, screaming and breaking things. If your partner is destroying your property, the message is clear: You could be next. If you are unable to raise even small issues without unleashing a torrent of abuse, there is a problem.
Violent assaults. Whether this happens once a year or every week, if there are violent episodes in your relationship, the relationship is abusive. Being bruised, battered and assaulted by your partner is not acceptable. No one ever deserves to be treated in this manner, whatever the reasons the batterer chooses to give. It is not your behaviour that causes this – if you do some research, you will more than likely find that there is history of this kind of behaviour long before you were ever on the scene.
Your children are quiet and withdrawn. Children who live in a home where the parental relationship is physically or emotionally abusive, quickly learn that it is better not to attract any attention. They are often withdrawn and overcompliant, and sometimes develop behavioural problems or psychosomatic symptoms as a resault of the stress they're under.
Who was that who looked at you? Extreme jealousy and possessiveness is often a sign of an abusive relationship. If you feel as if you are constantly being watched and constantly questioned about everyone you spoke to, all your movements, chances are your relationship is abusive.
Demure and downtrodden. If you find yourself growing quieter and rather saying nothing at all than saying something that could unleash a torrent of abuse, you are in a danger zone. The same goes for starting to do things purely in order to avoid another verbal or physical attack. The sad thing, though, is that it is not your behaviour causing the abuse, so changing your behaviour won't put a stop to it.
All on my own. If you find that your partner is constantly criticising your family and friends, does not make them feel welcome in the home, and makes it more and more difficult for you to see them, the isolation process, which is so typical of the abusive relationship, has begun.
Last minute cancellations. You find that it happens more and more often that your partner provokes a scene or does something to effectively prevent you from attending social occasions to which you, or the two of you, have been invited.
Not a cent to be spent. Financial control is another form of abuse. Obviously unbridled spending on unnecessary luxuries cannot be justified. But if one of the partners is forced to hand over their entire salary, or ask for every little thing that is needed, or is not given any spending money, or is made to account for every single cent that is spent, it could be seen as abusive.
Temper tantrums. No one is always in a good mood, but there is a difference between feeling rather miffed and losing control, shouting, screaming and breaking things. If your partner is destroying your property, the message is clear: You could be next. If you are unable to raise even small issues without unleashing a torrent of abuse, there is a problem.
Violent assaults. Whether this happens once a year or every week, if there are violent episodes in your relationship, the relationship is abusive. Being bruised, battered and assaulted by your partner is not acceptable. No one ever deserves to be treated in this manner, whatever the reasons the batterer chooses to give. It is not your behaviour that causes this – if you do some research, you will more than likely find that there is history of this kind of behaviour long before you were ever on the scene.
Your children are quiet and withdrawn. Children who live in a home where the parental relationship is physically or emotionally abusive, quickly learn that it is better not to attract any attention. They are often withdrawn and overcompliant, and sometimes develop behavioural problems or psychosomatic symptoms as a resault of the stress they're under.
- Health24
I WAS TOLD I'LL NEVER BE A STAR - Harrison Ford
Harrison Ford was told by an unknown movie executive that he didn't have what it takes to make it in the industry at the start of his career.
The 71-year-old actor - whose career has spanned six decades and includes high profile roles in Indiana Jones and the original Star Wars trilogy - was told he didn't have the star quality to become successful after beginning his career as an extra in Dead Heat On A Merry Go Round.
Speaking to talk show host Conan O'Brien on Wednesday, Harrison said: "I was in a contract at Columbia Pictures for $150 a week which back then in those days was still only $150 a week. It was ridiculous.
"My first movie role was a bell boy, a bell man in a hotel. I delivered a note or a telegram or something to James Coburn and my lines were, 'Paging Mr Jones, Mr Jones, paging Mr Jones' and he raised his hand and I went over and said, 'Mr Jones? Room 204?' and he said, 'Yes' and I gave him the note and that was my job.
'"There was a guy that was in charge of what they call the new talent programme and he called me into his office and he said, 'Sit down kid, I saw the rushes from yesterday, you're never going to make it in the business just forget about it.' He said, 'The first movie Tony Curtis was ever in he delivered a bag of groceries. You took one look at that guy and you said that's a movie star.'
"And I leaned across his desk and said, 'I thought you were supposed to think that was a grocery delivery boy.' He said, 'Get out of my office,' which I was happy to do. I didn't last much longer with them."
Harrison was spotted by the same executive over 15 years later in a restaurant after he had found great success on the big screen.
The screen legend garnered "great pleasure" when the executive apologised for his comments by sending a message to his table.
Harrison said: "Around 15 years later I was in a commissary at some studio and a waiter came over to me with a little silver tray and there was a business card on it. I picked up the business card and written on it was 'I missed my bet' and I turned it over and it was the name of the guy and much to my great, immediate pleasure, it still gives me a little bit of pleasure now - I looked around and I couldn't figure out which one he was."
The 71-year-old actor - whose career has spanned six decades and includes high profile roles in Indiana Jones and the original Star Wars trilogy - was told he didn't have the star quality to become successful after beginning his career as an extra in Dead Heat On A Merry Go Round.
Speaking to talk show host Conan O'Brien on Wednesday, Harrison said: "I was in a contract at Columbia Pictures for $150 a week which back then in those days was still only $150 a week. It was ridiculous.
"My first movie role was a bell boy, a bell man in a hotel. I delivered a note or a telegram or something to James Coburn and my lines were, 'Paging Mr Jones, Mr Jones, paging Mr Jones' and he raised his hand and I went over and said, 'Mr Jones? Room 204?' and he said, 'Yes' and I gave him the note and that was my job.
'"There was a guy that was in charge of what they call the new talent programme and he called me into his office and he said, 'Sit down kid, I saw the rushes from yesterday, you're never going to make it in the business just forget about it.' He said, 'The first movie Tony Curtis was ever in he delivered a bag of groceries. You took one look at that guy and you said that's a movie star.'
"And I leaned across his desk and said, 'I thought you were supposed to think that was a grocery delivery boy.' He said, 'Get out of my office,' which I was happy to do. I didn't last much longer with them."
Harrison was spotted by the same executive over 15 years later in a restaurant after he had found great success on the big screen.
The screen legend garnered "great pleasure" when the executive apologised for his comments by sending a message to his table.
Harrison said: "Around 15 years later I was in a commissary at some studio and a waiter came over to me with a little silver tray and there was a business card on it. I picked up the business card and written on it was 'I missed my bet' and I turned it over and it was the name of the guy and much to my great, immediate pleasure, it still gives me a little bit of pleasure now - I looked around and I couldn't figure out which one he was."
- BangShowBiz
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